Self Confidence
Use
these 9 steps to create unshakeable self confidence.
9
Steps to Unshakeable Confidence
By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler
Advisor to key executives
© 2005 All Rights Reserved.
What
is confidence? According to Webster's dictionary, it's “having
no uncertainty about one's abilities.”
Have
you ever wondered why some people seem totally self-confident, while
others are in almost total lack?
Actually
- no one is born confident. Confidence is built through life experience,
and especially the feedback you receive as a youngster about your
experiences. If you receive (and collect) a lifetime of negative
believes about your own abilities, then you will have low self confidence.
It’s
true that some people are naturally extroverted -- naturally bold
and outgoing. Others seem to be more naturally introverted, and
tend to be more caution in life.
But
the fact is … extroverts are not always self-confident, and
introverts do not necessarily lack confidence. Both extroverts and
introverts can have unwavering certainty about their own abilities
the most basic sign of confidence.
Nine
Steps to Self-Confidence
1.
Gain some new skills
Building some new personal or career skills will always strengthen
your confidence. What would you like to improve? If you would like
to speak before others with more confidence, consider joining a
Toast Master’s group. Take action and reach out to expand yourself.
2.
Recognize your own successes
Nothing builds confidence like success, but too many of us fail
to appreciate and recognize our own successes. You know how you
feel when someone else compliments you for something you’ve
done well. Make it a point to personally recognize your own successes,
no matter how small they may seem.
3.
Believe in your potential
You may not today be the person you wish to be but believing
in your potential will help you move in that direction. If you want
to achieve something notable in your life, you absolutely must believe
in your own potential. Just take it on faith at first, and seek
out your personal purpose for living.
4.
Learn from your setbacks
Everyone experiences disappointments and set backs, and it’s
just human to become discouraged at times. But you can use setbacks
as positive experiences if you view them as learning experiences.
Meet your challenges head on, and focus on your intended outcome
- not on the obstacles.
5.
Get some support
Turn to experts in the areas where you want to build more confidence.
You can find expertise in books, ezines, articles, courses, videos,
seminars, or even lectures. If you’re really serious, get a
professional coach to hold you accountable for taking the necessary
actions to achieve your goals.
6.
Show confidence in others
Just as like attracts like, confidence also attracts confidence.
The more confidence you show in others, the more confidence they
will show in you. The more recognition you give others, the moreconfidence-building
recognition you will receive.
7.
Act as if
Acting “as if” is one of the most powerful life-changing
tools known to mankind. Since your unconscious mind cannot tell
the difference between what is “real” and what is “acted”
the more confident you act, the more convinced your powerful
subconscious mind will become that you ARE confident. See yourself
living with courage and strong conviction.
8.
Expect to be confident
Expectation has often been called “faith in action.” Expect
that you will act confident, and your mind will produce the actions
you expect. Expect to be confident, and you will truly become confident.
9.
Go On a "Mission"
Whatever you believe to be true iIS the truth for you. If you do
not believe in your own self and your abilities that belief
becomes your own internal truth. Remember Webster's definition of
confidence: “having no uncertainty about one's abilities.”
Uncertainty
equals low self-confidence. It’s that simple. If you lack confidence,
a good personal mission would be to discover your own unique personal
strengths. We all have them, and YOU are no exception.
The
truth is, none of us ever reaches our maximum capacity. At its best,
life is an on-going process of learning and expansion. A basic key
to developing unshakable confidence is to know yourself your
TRUE self.
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