63. Family History
Perform
some extensive research on your mate's family history, which
will involve some help from the family, and create a website
especially for your mate's family where they can share information,
pictures, family recipes, and more! This will take some time
and planning but very little money. Myfamily.com is a great
site that is extremely reasonable. This will not only touch
your mate's heart, but the hearts of the entire family.
64.
A Day at the Spa
For
couples where the mother or father stays home and takes care
of the children all day long, show your appreciation for the
hard work that takes. Hire a babysitter for about four hours
and give your mate a gift certificate to a local spa where
they can enjoy a relaxing massage, mineral springs, sauna,
mud wrap, or whatever special treatments are available.
65. Charity
Find
a charity that you would both like to contribute to and give
something special in both names. For example, if there is
a synergy house near where you live for unwed mothers, go
in together and purchase a crib or baby clothes. Another option
would be if a local park needs donations, find out what kind
of trees they need and purchase a tree together. Make this
something special where you go shop together and then present
together. These types of kind acts are great for bringing
couples closer together and help both people love and appreciate
each other even more for their kindness.
66.
Thunderstorms
While
some people find thunderstorms to be scary, they can also
be viewed as being romantic. If you have having a thunderstorm
in your area, without putting yourself in harm's way, sit
out on your porch if the storm is still off in the distance,
or cuddled on the couch near a large window and just watch
the lightening together.
67. Take Pride in Yourself
Every
relationship goes through down time. Just because the flame
has become a mild flicker, that does not mean you have lost
the love for each other, it just means you need to add a little
fuel to the fire. When couples have been together for a long
time, the makeup comes off, the nice clothes turn into oversized
sweats and tee shirts, and instead of cuddling on the sofa
or floor, one sits on the couch and the other in the recliner.
Step back in time and start getting dressed up more on the
weekends, invite your mate to sit with you on the couch, dance
together in your living room to some music, or take a walk,
hand in hand. It is important not to let yourself go, even
when your relationship reaches a "comfortable" state.
By taking pride in yourself means that you take pride in your
relationship.
68. No Jealousy Allowed
To
have a healthy relationship, caring and concern are fine but
when those emotions change into jealousy, this could be the
beginning of trouble. Trust is probably the number one element
needed in order to have a strong relationship. Without trust,
things will quickly deteriorate. If one of you masters something
special, receives a promotion at work, or achieves some great
feat, there could be a small spark of jealousy on the other
person's side. You need to talk about this and ensure that
any feelings of inadequacies are permanently put to rest.
Every person needs assurance at some time or another and as
long as you can communicate, things will be fine. However,
if your mate becomes withdrawn or irritated, these could be
signs that more is going on. Once jealousy enters a relationship,
problems are soon to follow.
69. Keep in Touch
If
you are in a relationship, where your mate serves in the armed
forces and is overseas or in another state on duty, away in
a foreign country for school, or separated from you for one
reason or another, it is important that you keep in touch
with each other often. There will be stress from the separation
but by keeping in touch and informing each other of the things
each person is dealing with, how they feel, etc., you will
not have any break in your communication. The goal is that
when you get back together, you can easily pick up where you
left off. This is a very important time to provide each other
with confirmation of your love and validation of your relationship.
While this will require some extra effort on both parts, keep
in mind that the separation is not forever.
70. Host a Halloween Party
Instead
of just passing out candy for Halloween, organize a masquerade
party together where everyone is required to come dressed
up. Include in your party food, drinks, door prizes, and games.
Have a few friends provide help you plan this and then go
all out. Choose costumes the two of you can wear to enhance
each other. A few suggestions would be to Adam and Eve (wearing
skin-toned clothing - no nudity), Batman and Batgirl, Cleopatra
and Marc Anthony, Romeo and Juliet, Robin Hood and Maid Marian,
or Sonny and Cher. You will have a blast with the planning
and searching out your costumes. This type of party is great
for good laughs and fond memories of each other, which are
important for a good relationship.