Five Ways to Expand Your Comfort Zone
By
learning how to expand your comfort zone you can increase your self-confidence
and self-esteem!
Five
Ways to Expand Your Comfort Zone
By Skye Thomas
Expanding
your comfort zone isn't quite the same as building self-confidence.
However, the two do fit together rather nicely. The one begets the
other. So many people feel stuck in a rut... bored from a routine
that is safe and comfortable but not very exciting. Fear of falling
flat on your face or of looking foolish stops you from reaching
out beyond that cozy little life you've created for yourself. If
your goal is to expand your comfort zone, then you must think positive
while doing these. Remember that nothing really bad can happen to
you if you are smart in how you go about trying new things. It's
all just new adventures. Become like a curious child and have some
fun.
1)
Join Toastmasters or take a theater class. The idea here is that
you force yourself into public speaking. By learning how to project
your voice and how to think clearly while on stage, you will be
able to better conduct yourself in business and when getting your
point across to others. This will build a lot of self-confidence,
which will help you to really push your comfort zone in regards
to speaking out in front of others. Everyone is always terrified
at first. Public speaking is the number one phobia in America. You
will be shocked to discover just how much fun this can be. You'll
get bit by the acting bug or the public speaking bug before you
know it. It will most likely become a new hobby that you'll love
dearly.
2)
Drive home a different route every day for a week and shop at completely
new grocery store. By breaking out of your normal daily routine,
you become aware of just how much time you spend tucked away safely
within your comfort zone. Breaking out of your rut can be as simple
as trying a new restaurant or rearranging the furniture at home.
You can trade bedrooms with one of your roommates or move into a
new home. Go on vacation to a completely unfamiliar location. The
idea here is to change your physical environment and to mix up your
overall sensory experiences. By forcing yourself into new locations,
you not only become aware of how attached you are to your favorite
old haunts, but you also force yourself to see the world from a
new angle.
3)
Learn a new sport. This one has to be done with respect to your
age and physical health. For some it could be an extreme sport like
sky diving. For others it could be learning to play tennis or to
play golf. The idea is that you again force yourself into meeting
other people while pushing yourself physically into unknown territories.
You should obviously pick something that you'll enjoy doing and
that won't hurt. If you have bad knees don't take up running or
high impact aerobics. If you are bored out of your mind while watching
baseball, then you probably aren't going to enjoy playing it either.
You also need to consider honestly whether or not you are a team
player. You might be better off learning to rock climb rather then
to play flag football. Whatever you choose, commit yourself to learning
it completely and be safe.
4)
Compliment three strangers each day for a week. This isn't the same
as public speaking. This is private speaking. In order to do this
one correctly, you have to become fully aware of the people around
you. You'd be amazed at just how many strangers you pass every day.
You also have to think of genuinely nice things to say. It's not
enough to simply speak to three strangers, but to compliment them
forces you to think about the person before you speak to them. We
can randomly say, "Nice weather we're having" to everyone
we meet. That's not really connecting and concentrating on another
human being. Force yourself outside of your comfort zone so as to
tell strangers that you noticed something good about them. You will
make their day and your own. You may even find yourself with some
new friends by the end of the week.
5)
Volunteer at an elderly care center, a children's cancer clinic,
or an AIDS hospice center . They will love you for just showing
up and in conversing with them you'll learn all about people's real
regrets in life. People never say, "I really did experience
too many adventures." Instead, they almost always comment on
all of the adventures they denied themselves. They talk of how if
they had it to do all over again... how they'd be more spontaneous
and loving. There's nothing quite like seeing folks at the end of
their life to make you really appreciate your own. Spend some time
giving of yourself to those who don't have a lot of time left and
you'll soon come to realize how much the world has to offer. Perhaps
you will want to take a bigger bite out of life before it's too
late?
All
of these ideas are variations on the same theme. You are to practice
becoming spontaneous. The whole point of a too tight comfort zone
is that you do not give yourself room to be free, playful, and spontaneous.
You are too self-censoring and too routine for your own happiness.
Once
you've tried a few things on this list, then make a list of 100
things that you want to accomplish before you die and start doing
them. Have a wonderful time with this concept. There's no reason
to expand your comfort zone so as to take on more work duties or
more responsibilities. You will have enough of that thrust upon
you in life. You're going to do this one for your own happiness
and nobody else's. Give yourself permission to expand your wings
so you can fly a little higher and a little further to see what
else is out there.
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Skye
Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring
leaps of faith. She became a writer in 1999 after twenty years of
studying spirituality, metaphysics, astrology, personal growth,
motivation, and parenting. Her books and articles have inspired
people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit
of happiness. After years of high heels and business clothes, she
is currently enjoying working from home in her pajamas. To read
more of her articles, sign up to receive her free weekly newsletter,
and get free previews of her books go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net
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